Well, I did read a little of the book—what pieces I could peruse on Amazon. It’s Edward Hallowell and Peter Jensen’s new Superparenting for ADD: An Innovative Approach to Raising Your Distracted Child. Based on how choked up I got reading the first chapter and how inspired I felt when I asked Amazon to surprise me, I give the book a thumbs-up.
And here’s the success story, as Hallowell tells it in Superparenting:
I went to high school with a kid who got mostly Cs and Ds and sometimes Fs. It took him five years to complete the four-year curriculum. He couldn’t do math, he couldn’t do foreign languages, he couldn’t spell. Socially, he compensated by making jokes about how stupid he was. Finally he graduated by the skin of the teeth.
This young man was John Irving, who grew up to be a celebrated novelist. Here’s what Hallowell attributes Irving’s success to:
From all that I have learned about his life, it was because of love. His two parents never lost faith in him. They always believed in him. And rather than fussing too much over his poor grades and other shortcomings, they put their energy into supporting his strengths, one of which was wrestling.
In their psychiatric practices, here’s the advice Hallowell and Jensen give parents whose children are having difficulties:
“Hang in there. Keep loving him. Keep showing up. Keep trying. Keep setting limits, offering new ideas, making deals, wrestling with one catastrophe after another. Just don’t give up. Don’t write him off. One day all your love and all your efforts—and his—will pay off.”
I love hearing psychiatrists talk about love.
Here are two more books I haven’t read that tell stories about real people with ADD—not all of them famous—who’ve achieved different types of success. One is Positively ADD: Real Success Stories to Inspire Your Dreams, by Catherine Corman and Edward Hallowell. It’s geared toward kids, but it sounds like it could be a great read for adults as well. The second book is ADD Success Stories: A Guide to Fulfillment for Families with Attention Deficit Disorder, by another one of my favorite ADD authors, Thom Hartmann. I’ve put links to all three books over on the right under “Reads.”